My wife Monique and I just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary with a wonderful weekend away.
We went to the Savour Stratford Culinary Festival, where I accidentally kicked an extension cord and plunged the Tasting Tent and its 300 occupants into total darkness.
We stopped off at The Olde Hide House in Acton to get an old leather jacket of mine repaired. The lady seemed puzzled when I asked if I could return my jacket because it wasn’t working anymore.
We tried jalapeno fudge, roasted garlic fudge, fish tacos and barley wine. Thankfully, not all in one sitting.
We shared some great times, toasted 22 years together, and savored the prospect of 22 more.
Frankly, the last 22 years haven’t always been easy. They haven’t always been fun. But they have definitely been worth it!
Sadly it seems that more marriages these days are living by the lyrics from that old Trooper song…”we’re here for a good time, not a long time.”
I’m definitely no marriage guru, but I have noticed four things over the years that I feel have really helped our marriage survive:
- We are the same people when we are together as we are when we are apart. If you can’t let your guard down and be completely transparent around your spouse, you’re going to wind up exhausted.
- We have and pursue our own separate interests (within reason, of course). While it is normal for sacrifices to be made, spouses should complement each other, not constrict each other.
- We pray together. Not as often as we could or should; we’re working on that. But there’s something very powerful about joining each other in prayer.
- When something worth saving is broken, you don’t just throw it away. You fix it. Kinda like my favorite leather jacket. Sure, it has some worn patches and scratches. That doesn’t mean it needs to be tossed. That means it has character.
Happy anniversary, Monique! I love you!
The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord. – Proverbs 18:22
What marriage “secrets” have worked for you and your spouse?