Posts with the Most – May/June 2014

by Larry Hehn on July 6, 2014

posts with the mostThe older I get, the more the months seem to whiz by. Here we are, already halfway through 2014.

How’s it going?

Since life often does seem to go by so fast, I’m thankful for the milestones where we pause, reflect and celebrate.

This past week we had Canada’s 147th and America’s 238th birthday to cheer, and now the May/June 2014 Posts with the Most!

If you aren’t familiar with the Posts with the Most, this is the (usually) monthly feature where I compile and present my favorite blog posts from around the blogosphere for the previous month.

This time I’ve doubled up on May and June, for twice the fun!

It’s all about matching up some great blogs and bloggers with some great readers. Here are my faves for May and June 2014, in random order. Enjoy!

  • Skipping to the ending – For all those who have ever been tempted to sneak a peek at the end of the book. From Billy Coffey.
  • A Father’s Day al Fresco Fiasco – Mike Rowe (yes, the guy from Dirty Jobs) is not only a TV host and advocate of skilled trades, he’s also a gifted storyteller. Here he shares a heartwarming and hilarious story about, of all things, a family picnic table.
  • Growing to “Dad”The Late Arrival‘s Rochelle Fritsch reflects on a lifetime of getting to know her father.
  • “That’s So Typical of Christians” – Paul Wilkinson of Thinking Out Loud relates how Christians aren’t all alike.
  • Dear Student… – As an Educational Assistant, Life With Bellymonster‘s Liz McLennan has learned a few things from her students this year.

And now, as always, I’d appreciate your help. There are lots of amazing blogs and bloggers out there that I haven’t met yet. Which ones have I missed?


Do you hear what I hear?

by Larry Hehn on June 15, 2014

grandfather clockMy sister-in-law and her family own a grandfather clock. Its Westminster chimes sound each quarter hour. The soothing tones echo through the spacious foyer and fill the house.

But without my hearing aid, I can’t hear them.

There are certain frequencies I simply cannot, and do not, hear without the aid of technology.

Before I was equipped with a hearing aid, you would have been hard pressed to convince me chimes were coming from that clock every fifteen minutes.

No matter how well you described them or related your experience of hearing them to me, I would swear you were nuts. Clearly, from my perspective, the only sound coming from the clock was a steady tick, tock, tick, tock.

Which one of us would be “right”?

After all these years I’ve finally started to figure out – that’s the wrong question.

Empathy has never been my strong suit. I have trouble seeing and hearing things through a set of eyes and ears other than my own.

But I’m learning.

I’ve always placed high value on being right. It’s just how I’m wired. After reading Integrity by Henry Cloud (a highly recommended read, by the way), and not hearing the Westminster chimes one night, it dawned on me that I and those around me could benefit from me dialing that down.

As Cloud describes it, “Being right is not [an empathetic person’s] highest value. Understanding and connecting with others is.”

Let me tell you, I’d much rather have my tombstone read “He understood and connected with others” than “He always had to be right”. The former sure is a lot more Christ-like.

So, do you hear what I hear?

“For what you see and hear depends a good deal on where you are standing: it also depends on what sort of person you are.” – C.S. Lewis, The Magician’s Nephew

“To empathize and validate what someone is experiencing does not mean that you always agree or even think the other person is right. It just means that you see it as valid in that it is really their experience, and true for that person, and you show them that you understand what they are thinking and feeling.” – Dr. Henry Cloud, Integrity


Posts With the Most – April 2014

by Larry Hehn on May 2, 2014

posts with the mostHave you ever looked back over a stretch of time, scratched your head and asked yourself, “What the heck happened?” April always seems to be that kind of month for me. Again this year it zoomed past in the wink of an eye.

Thankfully I did manage to assemble some of my favorite blog posts from around the blogosphere – the Posts with the Most – for your reading pleasure.

As always, I invite you to share your own favorite blog posts from the past month in the comment section. After all, this is about discovering and sharing some of the great blogs and bloggers out there. Come join the party!

Here are my picks for April 2014, in random order:

  • You are allowed your process. – For all of us with someone we love who doesn’t work the same way we do, and it drives us crazy. From Jamie the Very Worst Missionary.
  • There is not enough – Feeling stretched to the limit? So was KC Procter, until some encouraging words came to mind.
  • Move – A bold and necessary dare from Rick at Planned Peasanthood.
  • What’s Your Legacy? – At Tough Bananas, Jan Moyer wants to know what you are doing today that has lasting impact.
  • When Hills Become GiftsThe Scenic Route‘s Eileen Knowles knows that obstacles in life aren’t always a bad thing.

Congratulations to all our featured blogs and bloggers!

What were some of your favorite blog posts in April 2014?